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Gay porn vs real sex

Gay porn is pretty great, but the reality of having sex with another guy works very differently. Lots of things are the same of course, but it is really important to work out what the differences are to have the best sex possible.

Porn has a fairly set structure: kissing, blowjobs, rimming, fucking and cumshots. Now this can be a great time, but there are also tonnes of other things to try, and you also might not want to do all of this. Mutual masturbation, grinding or frotting, and using toys are some of the many other options that are well worth trying out.

Barebacking (anal sex without a condom) happens a lot in porn but it can be a fun and safe experience if you use protection.If you're HIV negative and struggle with consistent condom use, you could consider taking PrEP to stay safe. But remember that while PrEP is great at preventing HIV transmission, it won't protect you against other STIs like gonorrhoea, syphilis or chlamydia. STIs are serious business and it is just not worth taking the risk. It is so easy to play safe, with free condoms available here, and at a whole bunch of other places.

Porn loves stereotyping guys by their body type, but the reality is that real guy's bodies come in all shapes and sizes, and that should not be an indication of what someone is into sexually. Muscly guys don't always top, and twinks don't always bottom. Just because someone might not have a perfect physiques does not mean that they are not attractive!

Communication is practically non existent in gay porn, but it is so necessary for having great sex. It doesn't have to be awkward and nerdy, but if you don't like being touched somewhere then tell your partner. Maybe it takes you a long time to get hard or cum, or maybe you cum really quickly. It goes the other way as well, because if you you are into something then you will want your partner to know, and vice versa. Once you get the dialogue going you will be surprised with what you discuss, and how it benefits you and your partner in bed!

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